FINDING COACHABLE PEOPLE

The player must want to win more than the coach. When the player is ready, the coach appears. What a joy when a coach finds a coachable person! (James is Hwee Suan’s coach and the proposal is for James to coach G and Hwee Suan to coach L.)

Dear James & Hwee Suan,

Your sweet, thoughtful and encouraging emails came as a pleasant surprise! : )

I was just telling G tonight that I/we have gained so much since I entered NSE. I have personally grown, got to know so many friends than i have ever imagined in such a short time, and, what more, good people!!! I also told G, if I see everyone (even a housewife) can be successful in NSE, why not us? And I am sure we can succeed in this biz too!!!

And, seriously, without my journey to NSE, I wouldn't have switched and entered into the AW trainings. Credit is not NSE, it is you guys that make the difference for my possible switch. Without the safe and learning environment you have created in small group I wouldn't have survived or achieved results. As you know, I am extremely clueless about making $$$ but God has blessed me throughout my life! Being in NSE teaches me about living life. I really wish that I can keep this in mind so that I can focus my energy in NSE and achieve success. :)) Ahhh!!!!

I don't see in myself what you guys see in me. But after AW, I learnt to be more gracious with myself, accept it and look forward to discover myself what all of you see in me. So thanks. I am also excited and look forward to G's personal growth and his untapped potential.

Thanks! I appreciate this acknowledgment and love.

Sweet dreams...

L

Coach as Mirror

4 April 2011 from Hwee Suan's journal:

I became clear again as I explained to Karen and Woon why I ‘tolerated’ James’ coaching and way of being with me on occasions when he seems harsh.

I am in training and I don’t tell the coach how he should behave in training me. I am prepared to go through toughness to learn something.

I think James is just being a mirror of how people really feel inside of them but they don’t show it. So if I want to know the effect my actions have on people, he is best person to reflect that.

In this business, I choose who I want to follow and I have chosen, therefore, I will not go and start judging my coach and telling myself how he should behave.

Heart Open, Mouth Shut

28 March 2011

Dear coach,

You are a Jennifer Lopez at American Idol! Heartwarming with sincere love. I am really grateful for your graciousness. And see how she made all the contestant shine and be the best they can be!

Thank you...your mail makes me want to cry again...

I am an emotional person but hide it well. It takes a lot to drag me down to the other end of my emotional scale. I can't remember when was the last time I go so down! It does bring me a great pain to my heart. Have slept very little in the past few days...just can't sleep.

The decisive actions I want to take-
(a)..
(b)...
(c)....

Thank you for not judging or criticizing me, with the situations I have been going through.

Love you coach from the bottom of my heart.

YN

Belief Brightens

It was just a coffee with a coachee who I felt could do with some face-to-face time. This is what she wrote in her weekly journal (which I reproduce with permission).

28 March 2011:
“I had been crying so much about my $ situation and feeling so afraid. I had an unexpected session with James mid-week when I met him for late morning tea. It was really something, what James did for me. It wasn’t just the numbers which he sorted out for me, but his energy, his inspiration, his blast of sense and sensibility tempered with love and care … the strength of his emotions when he said that I am a lapis and he cannot bloody understand how I can be a lapis or why I am a lapis when I should be a blue diamond. His words hit me powerfully, went straight to my heart and I know that for this year, they will be an anchor for me when I feel directionless for Nu Skin. I felt energised after the meeting."